Tool #1: Resilience Emotionally healthy people bounce back from adversity and stress—that’s called resilience . Such people cope with difficult situations and maintain a positive outlook. They remain focused, flexible and creative during good times and difficult times. Throughout His ministry, Jesus Christ dealt with lots of adversity and stress, yet He was able to maintain a positive outlook. That’s the ideal mindset, so “let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5). This will give us resilience. One of the key resilience factors is effectively balancing stress and emotions. The capacity to recognize your … Read More
Month: November 2020
As I draw inspiration from Ellicott’s Commentary for English readers on this Scripture, Paul draws to a conclusion, in a comprehensive exhortation to stand fast in all that is good on the foundation which he had laid in the name of Christ. The exhortation is marked by the reiteration of affectionate earnestness, in which, however, we may (as always) trace an underlying method. In each pair of attitudes there seems to be reference both to an inner reality and to the outward development, by which it is at once manifested and perfected. In both, Paul would have us grow up … Read More
Reason #1: Being Grateful Makes You Happier and Healthier Most of us have probably heard the hymn “Count Your Blessings”, however, we might not know that literally counting our blessings increases our emotional health. Researchers had one group of students write for 20 minutes each day about things they were grateful for, a second about things they were angry about, and a third about random topics like the color of their shoes. Guess which group was happiest at the end of the experiment? The ones who wrote about things they were grateful for of course! Even more interesting is that … Read More
After we remove the worry and anxiety, we can then move on to the next phase, which is to believe in the trust-fulness of prayer. Here, God is calling us to talk to Him concerning the things that would otherwise cause us worry and anxiety. Remember that we are custodians of the children in our care and we are co-labourers with God in the assignments He has given us. In this case, the children are the assignment at hand. The online dictionary defines co-labourer as one who labours with another or an associate labourer. This means that if you had … Read More
HOW DOES GOD WANT US TO MANAGE OUR EMOTIONS? THE PHILIPPIANS MODEL Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours]. Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, … Read More
Everyone in this life goes through disappointments, loss and change. It may not be single parenthood related, but life has generous opportunities to get us into emotional instability. While these are normal parts of life, they can still cause sadness , anxiety and stress. Many men and women in the Bible faced emotional challenges (we aren’t the only ones!), and we can draw strengths from their examples. One of my best examples is king David. He went through an emotional rollercoaster, in my eyes, probably the one person with life’s most highs and lows. You can clearly see this throughout … Read More
Studies have shown that an emotionally stable mother or father brings up emotionally stable children. I understand how difficult emotional stability can seem in the midst of challenging circumstances. The good thing is, God is not asking us to do this on our own, He wants to be involved and is very interested to help us out. During my years of single parenthood, I do not remember a day that passed by without my eyes welling and leading to loud sobs of disappointment, bitterness, anger and confusion. It was so bad that my eyes were blood-shot red most of the … Read More
Hebrews 5:14 A habit is a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. In various parts of Psalms, David repeats that his desire was to observe the commandments of God. In order to develop new habits, we have to keep doing God’s Word and will regularly. Scriptures in Hebrews tell us that solid food is for the spiritually mature, whose senses are trained by practice to distinguish between what is morally good and what is evil. To develop new habits, you have to exercise over and over again. If you fall, you rise … Read More
Romans 12:2 God has given us the mind of Christ so we should not be conformed to this world any longer with its superficial values and customs, but be transformed and progressively changed as we mature spiritually by the renewing of our minds focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes. This is so that we may prove for ourselves what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect in His plan and purpose for us. The Word of God is the best mirror for us to reflect our thoughts on. When we grow to where … Read More
(i) (Psalms 1:1-3, 6) If we are struggling with sexual sin, we should know that we are blessed, fortunate, prosperous, and favored by God when we do not walk in the counsel of the wicked – following their advice and example. Nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit down to rest in the seat of scoffers and ridiculers. When our delight is in the Lord, and in His law, His precepts and teachings, we will habitually meditate day and night. We will be like a tree firmly planted and fed by streams of water, which yields its fruit … Read More
Ephesians 6:13-14 We have to purpose to get out of the challenges we are in. We are at war here, for God, for ourselves and for our child(ren). We should learn how to put on the armour of God and maximize the advantage the armour gives us. We should find the TRUTH from God concerning us; Have a RIGHT standing with God; Be prepared with the GOSPEL of PEACE; Shield ourselves with FAITH to quench the fiery darts of Satan; Value the WORD of God as our helmet of SALVATION and sword of the SPIRIT; and Engage in PRAYER and … Read More
My recovery journey was not a matter of my standing firm on my own. We are part of a community - the household of faith. … Read More
. I was coming from a relationship that had left me hurting more than I thought I could handle. I was making peace with it and God promised me a great compensation for a husband but I had so much baggage to let go of. … Read More
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