For many children, the most important role models are their parents and caregivers because they help shape how they behave in school, relationships, or when making difficult decisions. … Read More
Category: Back On My Feet
Fallen or Failed? Here’s How To Get Back On Your Feet I will be sharing four lessons I learnt from farming my mother’s land. There’s a time for everything What you sow you shall reap If you fall, get up Don’t run away from your problems Click To Listen To The Podcast Here or Read Below My mother inherited a piece of land from her late father, my grandfather Paul. Seeing that the farm was far away from her matrimonial home and that she was already busy managing her business with my father, she asked my sisters and I to … Read More
The ‘How-To’ Manual for Single Parents Back On My Feet Evaluations and Impact Assessment will help us determine what has worked well and what could be improved in this program. Access the full Program Modules Covered in November 2020 – March 2021 Step One: Evaluation How did we get here – The fall (teenage sexual sin & adult sexual sin) or Tragedy (separation, divorce, death of spouse & rape ordeal)? Click to Explore Module Step Two: Prepare to Live Stand, after you have done all to stand… My recovery journey was not a matter of my standing firm on my … Read More
You are at your best when you are authentic to your core and you have to be what you are, not what people call you. … Read More
Do not get stuck in your job, career, side hustle or business when there is so much credible resource online. If you need personal development to get to the next level, please join me. It works and I am a testimony that it does. Let me show you how... … Read More
So rather than to go get a job, I thought it was important to talk about being a job; about hiring yourself about the opportunities that exists to create your own reality, your own business, your own company – to be the CEO of you. … Read More
Today you can go to school, get a great education and come out with a good bill and end up working in a pizza place. The question then becomes how do we manage, with our education and our disappointments, living in our mother’s house and sleeping on the couch? We have to retool ourselves so that we can be functional in the 21st century. … Read More
In most cases, single moms and dads experience double pain when the relatives of the deceased spouse push or threaten to sell the properties of their deceased brother or sister (in case of siblings) or of their son or daughter (in case of parents). This is unlawful and you need to rise up and fight for the inheritance of your children. Family In-law can and will take advantage of the situation oftentimes and can leave you at a far worse financial position than you ought to be. It is already tragic that you have to bear the responsibilities of two … Read More
In most cases, a non-custodial parent is responsible for child support payments even if they do not wish to have a relationship with the child. Courts have maintained that a child's right to financial support from parents supersedes an adult's wish not to assume a parenting role. … Read More
Tool #1: Resilience Emotionally healthy people bounce back from adversity and stress—that’s called resilience . Such people cope with difficult situations and maintain a positive outlook. They remain focused, flexible and creative during good times and difficult times. Throughout His ministry, Jesus Christ dealt with lots of adversity and stress, yet He was able to maintain a positive outlook. That’s the ideal mindset, so “let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 2:5). This will give us resilience. One of the key resilience factors is effectively balancing stress and emotions. The capacity to recognize your … Read More
As I draw inspiration from Ellicott’s Commentary for English readers on this Scripture, Paul draws to a conclusion, in a comprehensive exhortation to stand fast in all that is good on the foundation which he had laid in the name of Christ. The exhortation is marked by the reiteration of affectionate earnestness, in which, however, we may (as always) trace an underlying method. In each pair of attitudes there seems to be reference both to an inner reality and to the outward development, by which it is at once manifested and perfected. In both, Paul would have us grow up … Read More
Reason #1: Being Grateful Makes You Happier and Healthier Most of us have probably heard the hymn “Count Your Blessings”, however, we might not know that literally counting our blessings increases our emotional health. Researchers had one group of students write for 20 minutes each day about things they were grateful for, a second about things they were angry about, and a third about random topics like the color of their shoes. Guess which group was happiest at the end of the experiment? The ones who wrote about things they were grateful for of course! Even more interesting is that … Read More
After we remove the worry and anxiety, we can then move on to the next phase, which is to believe in the trust-fulness of prayer. Here, God is calling us to talk to Him concerning the things that would otherwise cause us worry and anxiety. Remember that we are custodians of the children in our care and we are co-labourers with God in the assignments He has given us. In this case, the children are the assignment at hand. The online dictionary defines co-labourer as one who labours with another or an associate labourer. This means that if you had … Read More
HOW DOES GOD WANT US TO MANAGE OUR EMOTIONS? THE PHILIPPIANS MODEL Do not be anxious or worried about anything, but in everything [every circumstance and situation] by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, continue to make your [specific] requests known to God. And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours]. Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, … Read More
Everyone in this life goes through disappointments, loss and change. It may not be single parenthood related, but life has generous opportunities to get us into emotional instability. While these are normal parts of life, they can still cause sadness , anxiety and stress. Many men and women in the Bible faced emotional challenges (we aren’t the only ones!), and we can draw strengths from their examples. One of my best examples is king David. He went through an emotional rollercoaster, in my eyes, probably the one person with life’s most highs and lows. You can clearly see this throughout … Read More
Studies have shown that an emotionally stable mother or father brings up emotionally stable children. I understand how difficult emotional stability can seem in the midst of challenging circumstances. The good thing is, God is not asking us to do this on our own, He wants to be involved and is very interested to help us out. During my years of single parenthood, I do not remember a day that passed by without my eyes welling and leading to loud sobs of disappointment, bitterness, anger and confusion. It was so bad that my eyes were blood-shot red most of the … Read More
Hebrews 5:14 A habit is a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. In various parts of Psalms, David repeats that his desire was to observe the commandments of God. In order to develop new habits, we have to keep doing God’s Word and will regularly. Scriptures in Hebrews tell us that solid food is for the spiritually mature, whose senses are trained by practice to distinguish between what is morally good and what is evil. To develop new habits, you have to exercise over and over again. If you fall, you rise … Read More
Romans 12:2 God has given us the mind of Christ so we should not be conformed to this world any longer with its superficial values and customs, but be transformed and progressively changed as we mature spiritually by the renewing of our minds focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes. This is so that we may prove for ourselves what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect in His plan and purpose for us. The Word of God is the best mirror for us to reflect our thoughts on. When we grow to where … Read More
(i) (Psalms 1:1-3, 6) If we are struggling with sexual sin, we should know that we are blessed, fortunate, prosperous, and favored by God when we do not walk in the counsel of the wicked – following their advice and example. Nor stand in the path of sinners, nor sit down to rest in the seat of scoffers and ridiculers. When our delight is in the Lord, and in His law, His precepts and teachings, we will habitually meditate day and night. We will be like a tree firmly planted and fed by streams of water, which yields its fruit … Read More
Ephesians 6:13-14 We have to purpose to get out of the challenges we are in. We are at war here, for God, for ourselves and for our child(ren). We should learn how to put on the armour of God and maximize the advantage the armour gives us. We should find the TRUTH from God concerning us; Have a RIGHT standing with God; Be prepared with the GOSPEL of PEACE; Shield ourselves with FAITH to quench the fiery darts of Satan; Value the WORD of God as our helmet of SALVATION and sword of the SPIRIT; and Engage in PRAYER and … Read More
My recovery journey was not a matter of my standing firm on my own. We are part of a community - the household of faith. … Read More
Good news is, we don’t have to do it on our own - we can get all the help we need. For some the help entails professional counselling and therapy; for others it will be spiritual strengthening; while for others it will be change of environment (work and residence) - whatever it takes for us to move on, let’s do it. … Read More
The tragedy of having to look at your baby and see the rapist all the time is so weighty and cannot be taken lightly. Only God can bring healing to the victim to be able to live a full and abundant life. God can and is willing to heal you and help you move on. … Read More
It is never the same when a spouse passes on. Even when the financial constraints are limited, the loss of a loved one comes with emotional stress that takes years to overcome. … Read More
Six years later, they would separate for a while and Peter got custody of Teule. He got the title of a single dad. He has done an amazing job caring for the son - he is loved, well fed, clothed and schooled. … Read More
It is overwhelming for a mother or a father to raise a child alone. That is why God put the two together, male and female, so they can assist each other in this godly assignment. … Read More
Getting pregnant is just one of the more visible outcomes of wrong choices in teenagehood - teenage sex poses a greater threat for teenagers as God forbids it. … Read More
This self-evaluation, if done honestly, will help you become more accountable to God and to yourself as well as empower you to take responsibility for your actions. Use it as a tool for continuous self-improvement. … Read More
Fortunately, God does not give up on us because He has identified us as His own by placing the Holy Spirit in our hearts as the first installment that guarantees everything He has promised us. … Read More
I was not holier than every single mother that I knew, but one thing I know, I got to a point where I totally depended on God to send me the right man. … Read More
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